End Device Distraction: Better Sex. Better Sleep. Better Health. Three Reasons To Be Mindful of Technology in The Bedroom
Did you know the average person spends over 33 years of their lifetime in their bedroom? That’s more than working, eating, socializing, exercising and vacationing combined.
At Tech Wellness, we’re all about helping people find balance with the technology the permeates every part of their lives. We focus on EMF’s, cyber security and privacy, the effects of blue light from our screens, online addiction and making a healthy digital home.
You Can Control Device Distraction!
Balance begins by being mindful of where, when and how you're using technology. If you're looking to create a healthier relationship with technology, there's no better place to start than where you spend most of your time… your bedroom.
Here’s our three top reasons why:
Great sex and deep intimacy requires or allows intense focus. There’s nothing like the tantric meditative state that we can achieve when we allow ourselves to Be Here Now. Magical sex, meaningful conversation or the tactile high tend to happen easier and more often- without distraction.
Here's a tech-life balance tidbit that we found particularly crazy: A recent survey of over 1,000 healthy Americans showed up to 10%(depending on age) admitted to checking their phones during sex. What? What could they possibly be hoping to see on the screen???
Even if you would never think of reaching for the phone during lovemaking, research shows that the mere presence of your smartphone is distracting. Even if it’s just sitting there, turned off and turned screen down. The more you “need” your phone, the more you’re distracted by it.
Smartphones occupy what's called a "privileged attentional space,” similar to how our brains perceive the sound of our own names being called out.
So if our smartphones are calling out to us if they’re just sitting in the same room with us, they're best kept out of sight and out of mind when you're ready to focus and delight in your partner.
If you’re wondering if there’s research proving that it’s better to not be distracted during lovemaking, another study shows that non-erotic thoughts can really effect performance and satisfaction, for both men and women. And a major source of those types of thoughts—it’s your most personal, personal possession—your smartphone.
So, definitely yes.
In that same cellphone-attachment survey, 68% of people said they sleep with their phone next to or near their beds. Which turns out not to be so great:
Those who sleep with their phones on or next to their beds are 3 times more likely to report feeling very unhappy or extremely dissatisfied with their lives, compared to those who don’t.
It’s maximum distraction. Another 35% admitted that looking at their phone before bed affects their quality of sleep. It’s probably not a big surprise to learn that science is proving them right.
Blue Light From Your Device is Distracting
The luminous blue light that comes from our screens can also really slow down our melatonin production. Melatonin is an important hormone made in our pineal gland that the quality of our sleep. In fact, ANY artificial blue light—from TV’s tablets, e-readers, etc., stops the melatonin from being released in our bodies and can ruin the quality of your sleep.
Actually any blue light source-even the bright blue sky- suppresses melatonin. But unlike natural light, device blue light is on when our screens are on - that’s stopping us from getting the natural melatonin our bodies are making that regulates our circadian rhythms and helps us to get a delicious rejuvenating sleep.
There are so many studies showing the connection between Orange or Coffee Colored blue light blocking glasses and better sleep. One in particular, a 2018 study from Columbia University found significant improvements in sleep, compared to clear lenses, in individuals with insomnia symptoms.
The participants simply used blue blocking amber glasses for the 2 hours preceding bedtime for one week.
We're all all about providing you with solutions that are science-backed--no fear, no myths from Tech Wellness. You'll find all of our blue light and sleep studies here in our Research Section.
Of course, we know that better sleep means better health. And, as you can imagine, better/more sex means better health (and better sleep. Can you see where this is going?). But if we really want to use our sleep time to do everything possible to keep us healthy, we need to step away from our wireless devices.
Hundreds of peer-reviewed scientific studies from around the world have proven beyond a doubt that EMF’s (electromagnetic fields), which are the information carrying radio waves that transmit information of all sorts to all our devices, can cause a biological impact on our bodies.
Personally, I look at EMF’s as another environmental toxin that I need to avoid, like pesticides, second hand smoke and even too much sun. So my best advice is a phrase that's been my mantra for over a decade, “distance is your friend” - do what you can to avoid EMF sources such as phones, WiFi, and wireless devices as much as possible.
Creating a safe place in the room we spend the most hours of our lives is a fabulous place to start!
The Tech Wellness Way: Easy Steps to Create a Tech-Safe Bedroom
Beat the blues For Restorative Sleep and Less Distraction
Don’t let digital Blue light interrupt your body’s natural sleep cycle. The National Sleep Foundation recommends powering down all devices 2 hours before bed. If that seems impossible, pop on some protective blue-light blocking orange glasses in the evening and nighttime hours.
Give your WiFi a rest.
Switch your Wifi off at night to encourage less "connected" time, AND also less EMF radiation time. Try this handy WiFi Kill Switch that lets you power off easily with no need to get close to the nasty wireless energy.
Say no to device distraction.
We are big fans of keeping your phone outside of your bedroom while you sleep. Try setting up a charging station in another room and waking up with an old-school analog alarm clock. If you absolutely MUST have your phone close by, switch to airplane mode before you turn in to limit EMF exposure.
Stay mindful with reminders.
Reminders Have trouble remembering to unplug? Place gentle reminders around your bedroom to set your intention to rest, prioritize your health and seek true connection with the ones you love.